Against All Odds: How a 96-Year-Old Actress Thrived While Raising Two Kids on a Shoestring Budget
|This legendary Hollywood actress faced the difficulties of a troubled marriage but embraced her life as a single mother, determined that nothing would hinder her progress.
This cherished TV star, who will turn 96 on October 25, 2024, is best known for her iconic role in the classic sitcom “Happy Days,” where she appeared for all 11 seasons. However, her career extends well beyond that, as she has faced and overcome many personal challenges throughout her life.
Despite her personal struggles, this resilient star discovered a life-changing role as Marion Cunningham, the warm and loving mother on “Happy Days.” The character closely resembled her own compassionate nature, making it a natural fit. At the time she secured the part, she was going through a difficult period in her life, and the opportunity to portray Marion fulfilled her childhood dream of becoming an actress.
This role not only defined her career but also became one she would always treasure. Reflecting on the show’s success, she expressed her gratitude, saying, “It was even beyond my dreams. Who knew that we would become an American legend?”
Born in Watertown, Minnesota, the actress moved several times during her childhood before finally settling in Albert Lea. At the age of 13, she changed the spelling of her name from “Marian” to “Marion,” believing it would look better on a marquee.
Feeling overlooked as a child, she shared in a 2018 interview that this sense of invisibility drove her ambition. “I didn’t get any attention. But inside, there was somebody screaming, ‘Look at me!’ That makes you become an actress,” said the veteran star.
Her longing to be seen and heard continued into adulthood, and at 21, she shocked her parents by eloping with fellow actor Freeman “Effie” Meskimen in 1951. The couple had two children, Jim and Ellen Meskimen, but their marriage was far from perfect.
The mother of two openly described her husband as “an unmotivated, moody drinker,” highlighting the challenges she encountered during that period.
In her 2018 memoir, “My Days: Happy and Otherwise,” the actress detailed her marital difficulties, discussing the turbulent relationship with Freeman. She revealed how their seemingly stable life concealed deeper struggles beneath the surface.
Even though Effie held a steady job and the family seemed stable, the pressure to support her children and take on every available role took a toll on her. She admitted that he “never gave me the feeling that now things would be the way I had always wanted them to be.”
Over time, she recognized that Freeman was a “functioning alcoholic.” The actress explained that he would drink every evening until he passed out, yet still manage to wake up early, read the paper, and go to work, appearing to function normally despite his struggles.
However, the marriage was far from harmonious, with frequent arguments and yelling. She recalled how his mood swings intensified over time, and despite her attempts to encourage him, their relationship remained tense.
Ultimately, despite her efforts to keep the marriage intact, it reached a breaking point when she discovered that Freeman had begun having an affair with his secretary, prompting her to leave him.
After nearly two decades of marriage, the couple divorced. Reflecting on that difficult period, the actress shared, “When I was 40, I got divorced. Nobody had a job [for me], and I had two small children,” she revealed in an interview.
To make ends meet, she had to get creative with her finances. “I rented out one of the bedrooms in my house to pick up some money. I’d think, ‘I made $35 today.’ It was hard,” the Gilmore Girls star recalled.
After overcoming the challenges of her first marriage and single motherhood, Marion Ross found love again at 60 with actor Paul Michael. Their romance was characterized by deep affection and mutual understanding.
They often finished each other’s thoughts, held hands while speaking, and exchanged dreamy gazes, clearly displaying the signs of a couple deeply in love.
Reflecting on their bond in a 2010 interview, Ross remarked, “People are capable of very hot romances as they get older. We sort of forget that, and sort of give up on that.” Paul echoed her sentiments, saying, “These are the happiest days of my life.”
Tragically, their love story came to an end when Paul passed away in 2011 at the age of 84 due to heart failure. At that time, he and Marion had spent 23 years together, creating a heartfelt and enduring bond. She referred to Paul as “the love of my life.”
Several years after Paul’s passing, Marion revealed in 2018 that she had retired two years earlier. She shared that she had achieved everything she wanted in her career and now preferred to focus on enjoying her life with her family.
She mentioned that she often turned down offers for roles, opting to reserve her time and energy for herself and her loved ones rather than taking on additional projects.
Marion Ross continues to embrace life with joy, and her son Jim often shares glimpses of their time together on TikTok, especially during her 95th birthday celebrations.
In September, Jim posted a heartwarming photo of himself with his famous mother, which prompted an outpouring of love from followers. One user commented, “Oh my goodness, I’m in tears. This is so incredibly sweet and beautiful!” Another added, “She’s amazing!” Many others expressed similar sentiments, with one saying, “She’s lovely, was a gem!”
Marion Ross’s legacy continues to inspire and bring joy to her fans. Even in her retirement, she remains a cherished figure, both on and off the screen.