Jennifer Garner wants out of ‘circus,’ memories of own divorce from Ben Affleck ‘too painful’

Struggling with her own painful memories, Jennifer Garner is done being a “marriage counselor” for her ex-husband and Jennifer Lopez. She wants out of the “circus.”

A source revealed that Garner, 52, has been very supportive of Ben Affleck, 51, and even recently helped him move from the home he shared with Lopez. However, it has become “too painful” for the actress, who finally told her ex to “figure this out for yourself.”

For months, Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez, 54, have been in the spotlight with persistent divorce rumors. These speculations intensified when the couple listed their Beverly Hills mansion for sale in early June, asking for $65 million, which is $4 million more than they paid for it.

The couple, who famously rekindled their romance and married in July 2022, had been sharing the home since June 2023.

Recently, reports emerged that Garner and the Good Will Hunting star – married from 2005 to 2018 – were seen together, moving his belongings out of the mansion he shared with Lopez and into a Brentwood rental, which costs him $100,000 per month.

The celebrity exes, who share three children – Violet, 18, Finn (formerly Seraphina), 15, and Samuel, 12 – were married from 2005 until their divorce was finalized in 2018.

The star of 13 Going on 30 is said to have been a supportive figure and counselor to Affleck and Lopez amidst rumors of strain in their two-year marriage. However, sources suggest the situation between Affleck and JLo is bringing up “painful” memories for Garner of her own broken marriage to the Academy Award-winning actor and filmmaker.

The Elektra star has now decided to remove herself completely from the situation.

“Jen eventually got to a place where she was like, ‘Sorry, figure this out yourself,’” the anonymous source told Daily Mail. “It was becoming too painful for her because it was bringing back so many memories of their divorce.”

Despite her close relationship with the “On the Floor” singer, Garner, who “cares about JLo” and how the reported split “will affect” the children, is prioritizing her own well-being.

“Throughout their marriage, there were times when Jen felt like she was second to JLo even though there was no communication between her and Ben for years,” the source said. “She was surprised at how public he became when [Affleck and Lopez] reunited because he always wanted to stay out of the spotlight when they were married.”

According to earlier reports, Garner’s partner John Miller, 46, is also fed up with Garner trying to ‘fix’ Affleck’s marriage.

“Of course it bothers John that Jen is so hyper-focused on her ex-husband,” a source told the Daily Mail on June 14. “He cares deeply for Ben and sympathizes with what he is going through with Jennifer, but that doesn’t mean Jen should be the one to fix her ex-husband’s issues with his current wife. That makes no sense to anyone.”

Lopez recently returned to the United States after a solo trip to Italy, temporarily escaping the intense public scrutiny surrounding her relationship with Affleck and the state of their marriage.

On June 24, the star made an appearance at Paris Fashion Week, and later she and her 13-year-old daughter Emme – the twin sister of brother Max, whom Lopez shares with ex-husband Marc Anthony – enjoyed some sightseeing.

“[Lopez] has had enough and she really tried but she can do no more, it’s not getting any better, it’s worse,” a music insider said, adding that the Marry Me star is “sad” about the end of her marriage but “trying to make the best of it.”

Meanwhile, Garner is also calling it quits on consoling and counseling her ex.

“In the end, it is not Jen’s circus, not Jen’s monkeys and she is done playing marriage counselor to her ex-husband and his wife,” the insider added.